I have a confession: as a stylist, I tell my clients to dress the body they have. I encourage them to love where they are now, and what's in their closet should enhance their beauty and not battle against their current shape. But, I have personally struggled to do this for myself.
In the past two years, like a lot of you, my focus has been on creating my business and caring for my family. My fitness goals have fallen to the bottom of my list on most days. Hence, my waistline has paid the price.
Which has brought me to a place where the pieces in my closet weren't working for my shape. And I was trying to dress a body that didn't feel like my own.
For a while I found myself with the same excuses I hear from women when they find themselves struggling to get dressed.:
"I don't want to invest in clothes at this size when I am planning to be a size or two smaller within the next few months."
But, I knew I had to do better and treat myself as I would a client. I had to stop making due until I hit my goal size, and love what is in my closet today-at this size.
My closet had TONS of great pieces that I love. The problem is most of them fell into two categories:
1. Way too small
2. I can squeese into it with my Spanx
When I work with a client who is in a similar place I help them develop a strategy to create a wardrobe that flatters the figure they have now. I had to be objective with my closet just like I do for my clients. Starting with pulling everything out that doesn't fit. This is the hardest part for a lot of women including myself.
However it had to be done. I pushed on and packed my timeless qualify pieces like my DVF sheath dress and wide leg jeans into a bin that now resides at the back of closet. Next, I made a Consign/Donate bin for the items that if I did not reach my size goal within a year would most likely be out of style.
When this was complete I was left with no pants, one pair of jeans, a few tops, a dress, and two jackets. It was time to shop. I hadn't shopped for myself in a long time.
As I tried on the sizes I had been dreading, guess what?
I felt Shapely not "Sausaged-In". Confident and Beautiful. So I made the investment. I purchased simple pieces that fit my life in my new size. Once again, I am excited to get dressed in the morning.
I am now working on being fit at this size. I may drop those 3 sizes, but maybe not-and I am okay with that. Because those size 2s & 4s are no longer hanging in my closet telling me I am not where I want to be.I can focus on what is now in their place: a wardrobe that helps me to show other women you can feel vibrant and confident no matter the size on the label.
So I practiced what I preach. It is because of my personal struggle with sizing that I am able to fully empathize and understand how to help you navigate your journey with style-no matter the shape and size you today.